"Sometimes your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy."
~Thich Nhat Hanh
This week I have been working on understanding why some people dislike when others overtly show happiness or smile a little extra. Imagine when one is having a “feel good party” mentally singing to some “feel good” songs and forgets that people around don’t “feel that good”. Yes, this happened to me. I was bluntly asked “why do you always smile?” “I don’t understand why you do that. It makes me mad”. CRACK shattered my mental record player and I paused to think – fight or flight. I decided to fight, by this I mean I went into a brief explanation of “I feel good today after a rough week dealing with my back pain… I’m glad I am pain free for now”.
As far as I can remember I have been known for my smiley face. People at times tell me my smile changes the way they feel about themselves (by this I mean positive J ). Why do I smile so much? I smile when I am genuinely happy, when I overcome a difficult situation and sometimes I smile because someone needs it. Do I smile all the time? Heck no. If I did smile all the time then I would be either smoking pot (to escape reality) or living in the “Loony Toon world” (I wished I had, sometimes this world gets too mean and/or too serious for me).
Discovering there are some who are bothered by my smile, I don’t know if I am offended or sad. Ever since, I have been wondering whether I should smile less knowing how some feel about it and I keep coming to the conclusion - How can I? Since I truly believe the Universe has given me the ability to smile for a purpose beyond my knowledge, in addition to many a times taking away my chronic back pain, reducing my stress level, and helping me win my mental battles – There’s MAGIC in my SMILE J and I am grateful I have one.
I know I like to “smile”. How about you? Have you ever wondered what does a ‘Smile’ mean to you? What does a “Smile” do for you? If you don’t have an answer check the links below maybe this could help you think.
As for me, for the past 8 years my SKYPE status has been “Always Smiling”
- I have no intentions to change it!
Baker, J (2014). What Does Your Smile Say About You? WebMD.
Body Language: What’s Really Behind a Smile? (2014)
10 Hidden Benefits of Smiling (2014) PSYBLOG: Understand your mind
Caroline Fernandes is a certified hypnotherapist, holistic wellness life coach, Reiki master and an integrative psychotherapist. She specializes in energy psychology and conducts international workshops on integrating Eastern holistic healing methods in psychotherapy. She is a blogger and a published author contributor in ‘Spirituality and Human Psyche’. She is available for consultation on metaphysical, spiritual, dream analysis, & intuitive matters.