April is a special month for me and I’ve learned to celebrate it with a zest. It is this month years ago, that I married my life mate and it also happens to be the month of my birth. As maturity kicked in and gray hair began to pop, I’ve learned to connect my birth month to new beginnings and the resurrection. And so, it is this month that I consciously take the time to evaluate and appreciate things in my life such as family, friends, incidents, fears, strengths, mistakes etc. It is this month that I secretly send out love and positive vibes to individuals who have helped me, knowingly or not, to grow and reflect ‘within’ by compelling me to face the good and the ugly stuff.
Years ago I made a journey to a new land, with one suitcase, a ticket, a heavy heart and anxiety of an unknown future. By leaving the comfort of my family, who then were my default – “my go to peeps” .. I survived. Life can throw several curve balls at times (especially when one is not prepared) but accepting it instead of fighting, will only enhance one’s chances to make peace of what we had/have let go. Today I have my ‘new go to peeps’ – mwah.. you know who you are J
Is it true, the older we grow the wiser we get? Or is it the older we grow the lesser is our need to please, control and conquer? One of the best things I’ve ever done for myself is to continue to learn, because now I know my growth is concrete, my dreams are greater, and my passion, stronger. So, here I am writing my ‘thank you’ note and secretly sending love and positive vibes to all of you who made a difference in my life. I'm glad I took the journey, if not we never would have met.
Caroline Fernandes is a holistic integrative psychotherapist & a wellness life coach.