The word ‘Forgiveness’ either makes us nervously hold our breath, or totally ignore it’s importance, meaning we do not want to deal with it at the moment. At times, we do not know what needs forgiving. Do we forgive those who have hurt us? Do we forgive those who did not help us during our hour of need? I had a client once tell me that she cannot forgive because she cannot forget what others have done to her. My reply was, “then you need to forgive yourself for harboring such feelings”.
Forgiveness is letting go of what does not serve us right. Forgiveness is to GIVE without asking in return. Experience has taught me that to ‘forgive’ does not mean to ‘forget’, but to ‘forgive’ the feeling that is attached to the event/memory we want to ‘forget’. Does this sound complicated? In fact it is complicated when seen through the eyes of one who is not ready to ‘forgive’.
According to Mayo Clinic (2013), the benefits of forgiving are:
· Healthier relationships
· Greater spiritual and psychological well-being
· Less anxiety, stress and hostility
· Lower blood pressure
· Fewer symptoms of depression
· Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse
Nature has a beautiful way of reminding us to let go… every Fall/Autumn she reminds us to shed away all that no longer serves our purpose. Let us take a moment and tune in to Nature, listen to her pulse, and follow her rhythm to better improve our Mind, Body, and Spirit. LET GO…
Mayo Clinic (2013). Forgiviness: Letting go of grudges and bitterness.
Caroline Fernandes is a holistic integrative psychotherapist & a wellness life coach.