Last week I was having a rough time with an individual who I felt interrupted my peaceful mind. I was irritated and annoyed that I let someone come into my space and intrude my peace. This state of my mind disrupted my daily routine and I turned cranky which further turned into a negative ‘anti me’ though. When I shared this with my good friend she tried to help me get out of this funk. She explained how I should not let the external world get to me and the inner peace I so cherish. I did my breathing exercises to let go of the negative energy, I cleared my chakras, I even meditated over the experience I had. Still I had struggles setting myself completely free. I was stunned how dense I felt with this unhealthy emotion. Since I wasn’t freely releasing I began to develop a migraine. That’s when it came to me … I lovingly sat down and wrote a letter to the individual who was the cause of my discomfort.
Dear John… (I’ll call him John for now) During the process of writing my letter I was able to express my feelings directly to him. As I explained how he made me feel I began to realize why I felt the way I did. By now I was answering my own questions. Writing a letter not only opened various hidden emotions but it released the control I had given John over me. By the time I reached the third paragraph I began to hum and smile. Later when I reflected upon the “situation” that had forced me to forget myself, I felt free!! Writing down my expression helped me to forgive and I began to let go…
It is such a empowering feeling to regain the reins of your life, your thoughts and your feelings... however trivial it may be… to decide when, where and how you can take charge and let those who do not serve your purpose or your highest good out of your system, aura, energy field, etc.
What I experienced is a common theme with many. What one creates of the experience endured is the only thing that matters. One can easily get consumed with anger, pain and frustration especially when things appear to be out of order or when controlled by someone else. Next time you experience something uncomfortable, take the time to explore it... write it down in a journal or write a letter. Express yourself… stand up for yourself… make yourself important… make your light shine brighter… be the positive you!
What did I do with the letter I wrote to John? I gently folded the letter and placed it in my “release box” to be burned on the next full moon bonfire!
Caroline Fernandes is a holistic integrative psychotherapist & a wellness life coach.